Hi! I’m Nicole Marshall Concha,
Your Liberated Life Coach. Through radical (and supportive!) life & body coaching, I’ll help you reconnect with your Inner You.
Here’s what I’ve learned:
worth is not earned.
We are worthy by virtue of being human.
I’m Nicole Marshall Concha (she/her), a mental health counselor-turned-your Liberated Life Coach. I have a combined 20 years of experience in trauma therapy, family and group counseling, social work, child welfare, Intuitive Eating, Body Trust®, and Internal Family Systems. (Whew!)
I also have a lifetime of experience in a marginalized body. That may be why I knew from a young age that I wanted to work in psychology and in a helping capacity. Prior to doing my own healing work, my entire experience with body image, confidence, and identity was fraught. I remember being bullied as a fat kid and praying to be thin. I “succeeded” at this for some years in my 20s, when I was engaging in disordered eating behaviors.
Because I correlated my worth as a person with my appearance, I was only ever as good as others allowed me to be. Regardless of my physical size, I never felt comfortable taking up space or expecting to receive what I needed. So, when my weight inevitably fluctuated, so did the attention, care, and treatment by others. But praise for being thinner never lasted for long, and when there was no praise, I felt unlovable.
And one more thing:
this is about self-compassion, but it’s also completely about social justice.
While changing your perspective about yourself and your own life is a big, powerful part of the work we do here, it by no means solves the bigger issues in our culture.
It is totally understandable that many of us who live in larger bodies consider, aspire to, and participate in intentional weight loss, because we know that aspects of life in our culture are made much easier for people who are thin (and white, straight, cisgender, male, and so on).
You won’t be shamed for that here – but we also can’t stand for it.
Fatphobia, weight stigma, and systemic oppression (of fat people, BIPOC, women, transgender and nonbinary folx, and other marginalized identities) loom large in our culture, and that’s why activism has to be part of this work as well.